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About Disillusioned

Conscientious objector to self righteous intolerance and contempt; ignorant callous bigotry; irresponsible moral majority mob mentality, and hypocritical selfish disregard for civilized values, decency, truth, and intellectual standards.

Flying Monkey Definition



flying monkey

In popular psychology, a flying monkey is someone who does the narcissist’s bidding to inflict additional torment to the narcissist’s victim.

It might consist of spying on the victim, spreading gossip, threatening, painting the narcissist as the victim and the target as the perpetrator.

Despite this, the narcissist does not hesitate to make flying monkeys their scapegoats when and if needed.

by Narcissistic Notes Fb page April 15, 2014

Narcissists Cannot Tolerate Criticism

A narcissist’s ego is hyper-sensitive. Criticism causes ‘narcissistic injury,’ which can trigger an outburst of ‘narcissistic rage.’ The affected will blow a perceived slight out of proportion and lash out at its source with accusations and blame—never admitting any responsibility. The narcissist plays the innocent victim act, engages allies, and can go to great lengths to exact revenge on someone they feel offended by.

Liar Liar

Liar Liar

Billy LiarSociopaths tend to be comfortable lying, having years of practice (and no qualms) and so can sound believable when making baseless statements. The sociopath benefits when people feel too uncomfortable to ask a seemingly sincere, respectable person to substantiate a claim, or fail to look closely at evidence—if not ignore it—because of his charm or perceived authority. He also benefits when people believe that they can “just tell” who is lying and who is telling the truth, and so fail to adequately investigate.

Fighting the Workplace Bully


Expect to be on your own in your fight with a workplace bully, with no support from within the company. Co-workers are more likely to distance themselves from your problems, hoping to preserve their own positions and opportunities.
PatternBarHa700Don’t be too surprised by the ruthlessness of a workplace bully’s actions or the rewards and honors bestowed upon him. You shouldn’t be shocked when the bully, a few weeks after you expose his diabolical plot against you, receives a huge bonus—just when you thought he was about to be fired.


From: Fighting Workplace Bullies, Part 2: Preparing Yourself to Respond
See also: Why Workplace Bullies Thrive: The Bystander Effect

Down the Rabbit Hole


You fell down the rabbit hole.

 by Admin (

You didn’t know it — you only thought you had found true love. You left the mundane world behind and didn’t look back, nor did you want to. You were let in on the secret handshake. You finally got a break, and it was about time.

It never crossed your mind to question the things too good to be true, the things beyond imagination, the strange things. Why would you? After all, they weren’t strange on that side of the looking-glass — they were just part of the wonder of it all.

In this world of awe, you didn’t ask questions — you just gave thanks for being there.

And then white magic turned to black, but it was too late. You had been hooked, duped, and made to believe it was the best thing that ever happened to you. You did whatever you could to get back to that world of wonder.

How did it happen? Manipulation.

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See also:

Common Types of Manipulation
 Dr. George Simon explains how manipulation tactics work.
 Vulnerabilities exploited by manipulators
Dealing with Manipulative People